There are so many people who hate spending time on their own because they find it boring or lonely. I think it’s nice to be able to enjoy your own company.
Enjoying Your Own Company
When I was little if I complained about being bored I would be told that I shouldn’t always have to be entertained. While that may sound a bit harsh I think it has taught me how to spend time on my own when there isn’t always much going on.
I value time on my own and it’s nice to just be able to focus on myself. It gives me time to think, make decisions and plan ahead. I am probably at my most creative when I’m on my own. Don’t get me wrong, it’s nice to be able to bounce ideas off someone else but developing those ideas works best when it’s just me.
You don’t always have to be super productive when you are alone. There is nothing wrong with watching a film, reading a book or pampering yourself. You don’t even have to be doing anything, even just sitting is fine. From spending time on my own I now only do things that I really enjoy. If I get invited to an event I would previously feel obligated to go, but now if it’s not something that interests me or would benefit me then I’m happy to politely turn it down.
Appreciation and Independence
Spending more time in your own company makes you have more appreciation for yourself. It can also make you appreciate the people around you. Being able to spend time on your own makes you more independent. The more confident you become being on your own the more independent you will feel.
When you were younger if your friends didn’t all want to go somewhere then you wouldn’t go, meaning that you potentially missed out on doing something you really wanted to do. Now, if you want to do something, you do it. If you want to see a film no one else wants to see then you can. There’s nothing wrong with hitting the shops on your own. If anything I actually prefer it. You get to visit the shops you really love and buy what you want rather than waiting for approval from the people you’re with.
Does enjoying your own company come with age to an extent? Do I value time on my own more because I’m that bit older?
We shouldn’t be relying on other people to make us happy. I think that if you can’t be happy on your own, how can someone else be happy with you?
”I think that if you can’t be happy on your own, how can someone else be happy with you?”
This topic has always interested me. I wrote a post on why it’s ok to go out alone and as women, in particular, we shouldn’t be afraid to enjoy our own company for fear of how we will be perceived.
I think your closing sentence is so true. We definitely learn to be more independent and confident as we get older. I can’t imagine missing a film I want to see because none of my friends do, whereas years ago I wouldn’t dream of going to the cinema on my own.
”I think that if you can’t be happy on your own, how can someone else be happy with you?”
This topic has always interested me. I wrote a post on why it’s ok to go out alone and as women, in particular, we shouldn’t be afraid to enjoy our own company for fear of how we will be perceived.
I think your closing sentence is so true. We definitely learn to be more independent and confident as we get older. I can’t imagine missing a film I want to see because none of my friends do, whereas years ago I wouldn’t dream of going to the cinema on my own.
I think the confidence and care-free attitude comes with age x
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When I was a teenager you would meet all your friends on a Saturday and go shopping in a massive group. I can’t imagine doing that now, I’d much rather go on my own!x